Thursday, September 20, 2012

Behind the Blog 20: Transformations


Behind The Blog is a meme to help bloggers connect their life and interests to the content showcased on their blog. The co-hosts Faye Kathe and Melissa will provide a different topic, idea, or question every week that bloggers can relate to themselves and the books, films, or media they find interesting!

This week's theme is Transformations

As we head into Fall, with the leave changing all around us, the trees becoming skeletons of their former selves,I’d like to think about transformations. How have you changed or transformed in your life? What parts of yourself have you left behind?
In relation to books/media: Who are some characters that undergo major transformations (figurative or literal?)

Fall is my favorite season for so many reasons. I love the cool, crisp air, the rain, Halloween, back to school time (even though I'm not in school any more) the scents, the colors of the leaves as they change, the list could go on and on. Another reason I love fall is because my birthday happens in fall. It's like a personal new year's celebration. I think that every birthday is like a persons own, personal new year. So in addition to New Year's in January, you get your own personal new year whenever your birthday is (although I suppose this won't be quite the same for people who's birthdays are in January and December.)

What I mean is, your birthday gives you the chance to start fresh with your new year of life, to transform yourself. 

I have changed a lot in the last few years, although I'm still me at the core, there are things that are different.

 I stick up for myself a lot more than I used to. I used to just go with the flow, and just do whatever everyone else wanted to do and this lead to people walking all over me or taking advantage of me (A  lot of the time, I still try to go with the flow, so I can be flexible.) But I realized that I was starting to get mad at myself for not making my own choices. And I felt like I was missing out on things that I really wanted because of  it.

 I get mad more often. It might not seem like it, but this is actually a good thing. I'm a born people pleaser, to a fault sometimes. So, rather than rocking the boat or making people angry, I usually keep my thoughts to myself. Not a bad thing, really, but then I have times when things finally tip to the edge and I've had enough, and my emotions just explode all over the place. I've been told it's quite shocking when I get angry like this because I'm so mild mannered most of the time. Getting angry more often, and not even getting angry, but simply voicing my opinion when it may not be the popular one keeps me from bottling things up so much.

I've started to care less about what people think about what I like. When I was younger, everyone had one thing, that they really loved. Almost to the point of obsession, but it was more like a deep passion. A friend of mine in high school was crazy about various boy bands (And she still is to this day) Another friend was a baseball  fanatic. Me, I didn't have a passion that I absolutely loved, like they did. There was reading, or course, that's a lifelong obsession, but I didn't really have a group or band or artist or show that I was obsessed with.

But, in my early 20's I discovered Charmed. And I was hooked. I will call myself certifiably obsessed with that show. I've watched the whole series, in order, all the way through at least 7 or 8 times. I watch random episodes when they're on and there's nothing else on TV. I've read and own several of the books based on the series. If there were more merchandise still available, I would buy it. I can quote lines, I have favorite scenes etc.

For a long time, I hid the fact that I loved Charmed so much because I didn't want other people to think I was weird for liking a show about witches and magical powers and all of that. Now, I don't care who knows. I like the show because its' a good show. And the message of being a powerful woman appeals to me. Anyone who wants to think I'm weird for liking it, go right ahead. You may not like it, but I do. And that's all that really matters. We only live once, so I might as well like what I want to, without fear of being judged.

These transformations aren't so much physical, as emotional or mental. Though I have thought about cutting my long hair, and I've contemplated getting a tattoo someday. They've been necessary, and even welcome. Sometimes these are conscious changes, and sometimes they just seem to happen. I don't think there's a certain time, or way to go about transforming yourself, it's a constant process. You're always transforming, into your self of the future. You will be a different person than you were 5 or ten years ago, at every stage in your life. And that's okay. Change is a good thing. As long as you stay true to yourself, you don't change just for other people, and you don't change in radically drastic ways that will make you terribly unhappy, then transformation is a good thing.

Books and Media Tie in:

As far as characters who've undergone major changes go, it goes without saying that Harry Potter is definitely a character who needs to be mentioned. He goes from a boy who gets abused at home by family who considers him an inconvenience, to a powerful, loved, respected, yet still down to earth wizard.

Since we're talking about Harry Potter, Neville Longbottom also deserves a mention. He goes from a timid, forgetful, meek boy to a confident, loyal and brave man at the end of the HP series. The quote that starts  Neville's transformation and sums it up perfectly is this:
It takes a great deal of courage to stand up to your enemies, but even more to stand up to your friends.
And, as a last, albeit odd media tie in, I'll tell you about the transformation that inspired this topic in the first place. That's Snoop Dogg's transformation to "Snoop Lion." He says that he wants to bury his Snoop Dogg persona and be reincarnated as "Snoop Lion" He's making an album called "Reincarnation" which focuses more on reggae style music than his usual lineup of rap music.

This just goes to prove my point that we are always changing, and will not be the same person in 5 or 10 years that we were. Or, apparently for some of us,  the same species of music persona.

I also have to thank my sister for helping inspire this week's theme by telling me about Snoop Lion's transformation.

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Anonymous said...

This is such a great topic. Being English-Australian I'm very much aware of the hemisphere split, so I consider myself a fall-baby and a spring-baby :-D
Neville is such a great example of the transformation that comes with growing up. And I really liked your reflections on the way that you've changed. It sounds like you're becoming and have become more and more comfortable with being YOU. Which is awesome. And I definitely agree that getting angry more often is a good thing. I honestly think that anger, in-and-of-itself, isn't negative. It's just that it is so often used in a negative way.

Faye (Daydreaming_Star) said...

You have made some great changes to your life Melissa, and like you say, change is not a bad thing as long as you stay true to yourself.
I hope that any other changes you make in life will lead to such spectacular things.

Yay for the Harry Potter tie in too <3

Melissas Midnight Musings said...

Thanks Alex! I'm glad that I'm not the only one who things that anger can be a good thing.

Thanks Faye!

Anonymous said...

Interesting topic. I think it is very important that we all change, it shows that we are growing.


Melissas Midnight Musings said...

@K8: That's very true.