Thursday, October 18, 2012

Behind the Blog 24: Siblings


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Behind The Blog is a meme to help bloggers connect their life and interests to the content showcased on their blog. The co-hosts Faye Kathe and Melissa will provide a different topic, idea, or question every week that bloggers can relate to themselves and the books, films, or media they find interesting!
This week's theme is: Siblings

Every family is different. This week we’re asking you about yours. Do you have any siblings? If you do, can you tell us anything about them? If you don’t, did you have any friends who felt like siblings to you? How has the ideas surrounding brothers and sisters shaped your life?

In relation to media; are there any siblings in books or films that you truly love? Any that you wish were your own?


I have 2 sisters, one older, one younger. I don't want to invade their privacy, and I don't know that they would appreciate me talking about them too much online, so I won't say much, except that I'm lucky to have siblings. I think it would be lonely not to have siblings.

On that same thread though, I think it's possible to adopt your friends as siblings, too. My friend Tanya, who's been my friend for more than 15 years now, is like a sister to me. When you've been friends with someone for that long, it's impossible not to feel like family.

There's a line in Baz Luhrman's song Everybody's Free ( To wear sunscreen) that explains a really important aspect of having a sibling and that's this:

Be nice to your siblings; 
They are the best link to your past and the people most likely to stick with you in the future.
I agree wholeheartedly with this. I think it's much easier in some ways to get along with your siblings when you're older than when your kids. You're more mature, you've been through a lot together, and you can learn to agree to disagree. When you're a kid you don't quite have that same capacity. As adults you can bond over shared memories more. (And, you usually have different versions/perspectives on them)

Books and Media:

I really like the sibling relationship between Darryl, Ponyboy and Sodapop. They fight and argue sometimes  but they're also really close to each other. They look out for each other in a way that most siblings don't. In that same line of thought, the whole Greasers gang feels like one big family of brothers, because they protect each other the way they do.

I included Harry Potter because I really like the dynamic of Ron's family. They're such a loveable strong family. It's hard not to want to go and live with them. Everyone is so happy all the time, and they make sure that they welcome people into their family with ease. It's so easy to like them.

I love the dynamic between the sisters on this show. If I had to choose siblings that I would like to have (in addition to the ones I have of course,) I'd choose Piper and Phoebe. I identify a lot with Piper's character, because we're both middle children and both mediators. And Phoebe's just fun.

What siblings from books or media would you like to have?

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6 comments:

alexandrasscribblings said...

You're a middle sister like Faye! I'm the bossy eldest child, which suits me fine.
I think a lot of people - at least, in my experience - do start to get closer to their siblings once they've all grown up a bit and have more separate lives - you're not compteting so much. My best friends, who are twins, are closer now than they ever were when they were kids.
And I really like that point that "They are the best link to your past and the people most likely to stick with you in the future". Yes! Siblings see you as you are, because they know the best and the worst of you and they know where you've come from.

Heehee, Charmed again! I'm really enjoying all your references to that show. :-)

Melissas Midnight Musings said...

@Alex:
Is there a lot of pressure, being the eldest? I think it's nice that your friends are even closer, now that their older. Being twins I wouldn't think that'd be possible, since twins are always so close it seems but I suppose the same applies to them.

Haha I'm glad you enjoy the references, I know my obsession is probably getting a little old, but I can't help it, lol.

Faye (Daydreaming_Star) said...

Yay for the middle child syndrome *high fives*

haha.

This post is so lovely <3
I love this; "They are the best link to your past and the people most likely to stick with you in the future" and totally agree. I really did never get on with my big sister growing up but I know that I will always stand by her side nowadays and she to me. We've always been protective of each other - which is where half our arguments came from because she tried to protect me from my friends lol.

But yeah, it's hard to let go of those who have always been around.

I also have a friend who I would definitely consider a sister. We were actually born on the same day and knew each other as kids before we separated. Now we only see each other maybe once or twice a year as we live so far away but I know that no matter what, we'll always be there for each other too. :)

Also, yay for Charmed and Harry Potter!

alexandrasscribblings said...

I think, being the eldest, I put pressure on myself, and I probably take on and accept a lot more responsibility than my brothers do, even factoring in the age gaps...I'm very aware of being 'the responsible one' when we go out anywhere.
Re my friends - yeah, I love that they get on even better now! I think now they hang out together because they WANT to and not because they HAVE to, and that makes quite a difference. My Dad is a twin, and it was the same for him - he and his sister got on OK when they were growing up, and really well once they'd moved out and had their own separate lives. Twins are just the same as normal siblings, only they've got even more areas to compete over because they're the same age - so they've got same friends, same classes, etc.

Don't stop with the Charmed references! It's now something I associate with you - along with purple. :-)

Melissas Midnight Musings said...

@Faye:

*high five* Go middle child syndrome!

That is so cool that you and your friend have the same birthday. And of course that you've stayed close over the years :)

@Alex:
That's true, I didn't think about the extra competition element with twins being the same age.

I'll keep those Charmed references coming. I'm glad that they, and my obsession with purple, make me memorable. :)

Erika said...

I also love Ron's family which makes it so hard to watch/read near the end of the Harry Potter series. I love those big lovable families that tease each other but would do anything for each other.